A lot of people are seriously considering to acquire self confidence but only a few succeed. There is a very big reason behind this as self confidence is a trait that cannot be acquired by just reading or memorizing stuff.
Self confidence is an important aspect of emotional intelligence and is also a strong foundation to a successful life. Many people have the wrong notion that just feeling better about themselves will make them confident. This is very wrong—self confidence is not equivalent to getting liposuction and feeling sexy neither is it equal to buying clothes and shoes just to feel better. These could help a bit but these are not the main areas of happiness and contentment. Being truly happy and contented can come from thinking good thoughts, making the right choices and establishing habits of self confidence.
Why it’s a Habit
Self esteem, indeed, is a habit not merely a feeling or a state of mind. At any point in time, anyone can direct his thoughts, energies and behaviors toward the ultimate goal which is having confidence in oneself. It could sound simple but it is far from being simple. For a behavior to become a lifelong habit, a person must be focused and have the willpower to achieve his goal no matter what happens. Anyone can begin this quest to become self confident but not everyone can do it.
Developing the Habit of Self Confidence
The very first step to improving one’s confidence is to have self awareness. This means noticing all the systems of the human body and preparing them to accept this new habit. This includes taking note of all negative emotions such as melancholy, panic, anger, anxiety, and depression. Once these emotions are identified, the individual must do all he can to desert them. When it comes to thoughts, an individual must remember to think positively at all times.
Negative thoughts spur negative feelings or actions and these are often unhealthy. The mind is a powerful tool and one who is determined to become self confident must use this as an effective instrument. One who is learning to become self confident must inculcate in his mind that he has self esteem and truly believe in it.
Once this faith is instilled in a person’s mind, he should constantly practice being self confident until such time that it becomes effortless or a part of his second nature. Building a habit means doing the same thing over and over until the person becomes used to it.
Confidence Killers
A person who is practicing to become self confident must beware of these stumbling blocks:
• The I can’t do it attitude —this is common among people who are naturally timid or shy. Anyone who falls into this trap is bound to fail.
• Inferiority Complex—a person with this problem tends to put himself down and equates himself as less than other people. Such thoughts as “Who am I to talk to him about this when I am only…” or “They will never listen to me, I am just…” must be pushed out of one’s mind.
The only person who can achieve the quest to being self confident is the person who believes in himself. Also, self confidence is a habit because it must be played out over time until it would finally stick to an individual—there is just no other way.
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