It's the last hurdle in getting your ex back and one many just don't get right. It's how to apologize after breaking up and yes, there is a definite technique you need to know otherwise all the good work you've done leading up to the magic of making up process will be all for nothing.
The secret to an effective apology is sincerity. That's it! You've got to really mean you're sorry otherwise your ex will smell a rat and you'll be turfed out the door quicker than you can say but...
An Insincere Apology
People who get dumped out of a relationship usually do so because of some misdemeanor they committed. Sure, there are times when someone just falls out of love or has found in someone else all the things they want in a partner but for those who did the wrong thing then you need to heed this advice.
The key to how to apologize after breaking up lies in being sincere. Let's take a look firstly at what you shouldn't do:
- Get into an argument about who is right and who is wrong.
- Trying to get your ex to take some responsibility for what happened.
- Apologizing and then showing complete insincerity by saying..."but you have to admit I..."
A Sincere Apology
The word "but" is one of the biggest killers of an effective apology that it needs to be watched carefully. "I'm so sorry but..." smacks of insincerity and will just be proof for your ex that you are not really sincere.
The key to the magic of making up with an apology lies in four main ingredients. Let's take a brief look at those. They include:
- Acknowledging the feelings of your ex but in a way that you display feelings about their trauma. In other words start with the word "you" as in "you must be feeling so terrible for what I did."
- You need to explain why you did what you did but in a way where you are accepting complete responsibility for the discretion.
- Offer how you feel as well but not in a selfish way. You need to tell your ex his/her pain really made you feel so guilty and terrible about what you did. You need to express your responsibility for their pain.
- Expect nothing in return for your apology although deep down you want them to wrap their arms around you. Again, express your responsibility and that you will understand totally if they don't accept your apology or take you back. This is such an important closer in how to apologize after breaking up and you must always express responsibility.
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